Listen to How You Talk

Love Couple

When working on your relationship, more than likely you and your mate have settled into a pattern of speaking to each other. 

It might be with short, blunt answers, heavy sighs as though bothered, or with negative remarks. 

Pay attention to not only your words spoken, but also the tone in which they are spoken. 

Be positive, cheery, and respond in a way that will confirm to your mate that you are listening and truly interested - that you have time to listen and communicate. 

In addition, add terms of endearment into your conversation. Instead of "Good morning," try, "Hi honey, good morning!"

How To Talk To Shy Wome

Love Couple

Love Couple

Here are a few tips on how to talk to shy people.

1) Smile and make eye contact: First of all, smile and be warm. Make eye contact, but don’t expect them to sustain it.

2) Don’t make sudden, threatening movements:  Avoid making sudden, threatening movements that may scare them. Don’t lean in too close. Try to give them a lot of physical space. If they tense or flinch when you lean over, you’ve crossed their line. Lean back.

3) Speak softly and slowly:  Speak softly and slowly. Make it so that they almost have to lean forward to hear you. You will appear a lot less intimidating to them.

4) Lead the conversation: Don’t expect them to carry the conversation or even participate much. You’ll have to do the leading. Lead gently until they relax and start chatting back.

Want to get better at dating quickly?

Love Couple

Here’s what I want you to do.

1) After you come home from a date, take out a piece of paper and write down what you did well and what could be improved.

2) Pick just ONE THING out of the thing you could improve on and focus on that.

3) Put this paper in a binder and file it away somewhere safe. Every month, go back and read your previous entries. See if you have changed your opinion on how your dates went.

In time, you will find that a lot of your thoughts and assumptions may turn out to be not so accurate.