How the Lover Sees the World

How the Lover Sees the World

The person who tends to fall within the parameters of the lover sees the world in a certain light. For instance, the lover would rather make someone happy by doing something you do not want to do than to possibly hurt them by saying no. However, on the other hand, the lover will see resentment and anger when things go a little too far in this respect. The lover tends to bottle things up inside in the form of resentment and later will explode in a rage of feelings. Most times, this rage will be hurtful to others and be in the form of an argument or accusatory statements.

Lovers also tend to see other people , all of them, as people who want to control the world, having something against them, or are out to get them. This can lead to unwarranted paranoia. When the lover is in a position to be with a group of people, they tend to be shy, meaning they never speak their mind. This oftentimes leads to the group making decisions without the input of the lover, which is why he thinks everyone else wants to control him. The lover will also feel he is being trapped into doing things he does not want to do. This is because of the lack in decision making or motivation to do anything on his own.

As for the relationship he is in, he feels he must completely pacify his partner for fear of rejection. However, he also sees an opportunity to make someone happy on a more intimate level at the same time. Any time his partner wants or needs something, he will not hesitate to provide it to them. On the other hand, he can also see this relationship and his partner as controlling. When things start to get too involved, and his partner really does make all of the decisions without regard for the lover’s feelings (as the lover wants) it is done without mentioning or talking about what the lover wants or needs. Much later on in the relationship, this can become second nature and it eventually creates tension between them. Then, the lover’s partner may even resent him for making them make all the decisions, creating even more tension.